Planning your wedding in
The Abbey Church of the Blessed Virgin and Holy Child, Beaulieu
The Registration of Marriages Regulations 2015
There are specific legal requirements before people can be married in the UK. For the majority of people wanting to get married in the UK, this means showing a British passport to the organisation conducting the ceremony, in this case, the benefice of Beaulieu, Exbury and East Boldre. If you CANNOT do this, the position becomes more complicated and you should examine details of the Regulations (fully available on-line), and then talk with the Benefice Administrator. No further steps in processing your application to be married with us can be taken until this 'Britishness' is proved.
Having your wedding in a church of the Church of England
The Church of England has an excellent website, (https://www.yourchurchwedding.org/) with links via the Links page of the Information tab of this website. Look at this website first, to answer general questions. If you decide you want to be married in Beaulieu, Exbury or East Boldre, then read on!!
How can you arrange a wedding in the Beaulieu, Exbury and East Boldre Benefice?
We would love to have your wedding here if we can.
However, there are certain legal and spiritual requirements which must be satisfied before proceeding further.
Firstly, do you or does your partner live in the Parish in which you hope to be married?
If not, do you or does your partner have Qualifying Connections with the parish such as:
· you have at some time lived in the parish for at least 6 months,
· you have regularly attended normal church services in the parish for at least 6 months,
· your parents live of have lived in the parish for at least 6 months during your lifetime,
· your parents have regularly attended normal services in the parish for at least 6 months,
· your parents or grandparents were married in the church,
· you were baptised or prepared for confirmation in the church?
Everyone is entitled to be married in the Parish Church where they live, but if you choose a church in a different parish you must have a ‘Qualifying Connection’ to be married there. To help you decide about the type of 'connection' you have with us, we have designed a form which helps you answer the question, "What connection do you have with the Church in which you hope to be married". This can be obtained from the Benefice Office (office@beaulieu churches.org.uk).
If neither of you is resident and neither of you has any of the qualifying connections mentioned above, you will need to become qualified by regularly attending services in your chosen church for at least 6 months before your Banns are read. There is a folder at the back of the Beaulieu Abbey Church which we would ask you to sign each time you attend. You will find details of Services in the Lymington Times or on our website. We interpret ‘regularly’ to mean twice a month. Banns are normally read on 3 Sundays within 3 months of the wedding in the church in which the wedding is to take place and in the Home Parish of the bride and groom (if that is different). So if you are attending services in order to form a ‘Qualifying Connection’ then you must start attending at least 9 months before your wedding date in order to have your connection when the Banns are due to be read.
MARRIAGE FEES for 2017 for the Beaulieu Benefice
Please note that these figures make assumptions about what facilities you wish to use. They are a useful guideline, but are not in any way binding! More detailed material is available on a separate page of this website, devoted to Wedding Fees. Please note that ALL fees must be paid in full, at least one month prior to your wedding.
Beaulieu Abbey Church
St Katharine’s Church, Exbury
St Paul’s Church, East Boldre
This fee includes use of the church, a priest, a verger and an organist
£100 must be paid when you book and the final balance by one month at the latest before your wedding.
Optional extras: flowers, choir and the right to make a video recording
Fees are altered by The Church of England in January each year. 2018 fees will apply if your wedding is next year.
BUT WHAT IF I OR MY PARTNER HAVE BEEN DIVORCED?
Has either partner been married before? If one (or both of you) has been divorced you will need to complete a form entitled Marriage in Church after Divorce and attend an early interview with the Parish Priest to discuss your options before you can make a booking. We intend this form to be available on this website, but until that has been done, you should apply in writing to the Parish Office, Beaulieu Abbey Church.
Please note that these formalities MUST be completed to the satisfaction of the Parish Priest, before any commitments can be made.
Now your wedding date is set, you will find these guidance notes helpful as you plan your service.
· Interviews with the priest conducting your wedding:
You will meet with Father John or the priest conducting your service, twice, the first time in the six months before the date and again in the weeks before. It is for you to make contact with Father John to arrange a date.
· Orders of Service
These you will prepare with the help of your priest and the guidance notes enclosed.
Please do not send your Orders of Service to the printers until they have been discussed and approved by your priest.
All flower arrangements must be discussed with Jo Cooke-Hurle
If you wish your wedding to be videoed, please discuss with your priest and be aware the organist’s fee is doubled to £200 (RSCM approved rate)
· Photos in the Cloisters
Within the churchyard we allow you to throw ONLY biodegradable confetti or flower petals. If you are leaving the church to go into the cloisters, the Beaulieu Estate have a ‘NO CONFETTI policy’