Church Notices

A Concert for Lent this coming Saturday in the Abbey Church

Two choirs, Vox Humana and Gregoriana, combine to present a fascinating programme of sacred music, as we are guided from Milanese chants, motets of Notre Dame, hymns of St Hildegard and on to the Renaissance for Passiontide music and beyond.  Tickets are £10.00 on the door or via the Benefice Office. 

Opening of St Katharine's Exbury and St Pauls, East Boldre

 St Katharine's Exbury will be open during the day to visitors on Tuesdays and Thursdays.

St Paul's Church Eat Boldre will be open during the day to visitors on Thursdays.

Further details may be had by contacting the Benefice Office on 01590 612242

Safeguarding; an important message

Safeguarding Aide-Memoire

The Benefice is committed to theSafeguarding, care and nurture of everyone within the our ChurchCommunity.

In accordance with the Diocese ofWinchester Safeguarding policies and practice and with theoverarching Church of England National Safeguarding Policy and Practiceguidelines.

Within the Benefice of Beaulieu, Exburyand East Boldre with Buckler’s Hardthe appointed Benefice and ParishSafeguarding Officer is:

Mrs Jane Barnicoat-Chongwe,

Telephone contact: 023 8087 9748 or

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The Incumbent / Rector - Revd John CWhite & The Benefice Safeguarding Representative - Jane Barnicoat-Chongwe

Dated and Effective from 7th March2017

For more information visit the DiocesanWebsite:


The main forms of abuse are:

Physical: bruises, burns, cuts, bites,fractures, etc. which do not have anexplanation.

Emotional: changes in mood orbehaviour, withdrawn or clingy.Depression, aggression or extreme

anxiety, nervous, low self esteem.

Neglect: under nourishment, failureto grow, constant hunger, inadequatecare, dirty, inappropriate clothing,unkempt.

Sexual: knowledge of adult sexualbehaviour – words / drawing. Sexuallyprovocative, sexual infections.

Discriminatory: racist, sexist, based ona person’s disability.

Spiritual: using faith, spirituality, trust tomanipulate and control people.

Financial: money, possessionsdisappearing, no money for essentials,

jewellery, valuables missing.

Institutional: care home, etc.

Grooming: of individual, family, church.

We may become aware of abuse or concerns about someone’s behaviour in anumber of ways.

  • •A disclosure from a person who has or is experiencing abuse;
  • •An allegation about someone’s conduct;
  • •A concern about someone’s behaviour.

All must be taken seriously and acted on.

Child Protection

Adult at Risk of Abuse

Domestic Abuse

It is everyone’sresponsibility to safeguard children,young people and vulnerable adults.




Attempt to investigate yourself;

Discuss the case with anyone else;

Speak to theaccused;

Ignore it.



Never promise to keep a secret, orconfidentiality. Tell them you may needto share this.

Assure them they are not to blame forwhat happened.

Reassure the person they have done theright thing by telling you.

React calmly, be aware of non-verbalmessages and body language.

Listen, do not ask leading questions orinvestigate. Avoid making comments orjudgements.

Tell them what you are going to do andthat they will be told what is happeningat each stage.

Refer as soon as possible to theDiocesan Safeguarding Adviser.

Find support for yourself.



Make full notes of what you are told –including names, the person making thedisclosure / referral, and date and time.

Date and sign your notes.

Use the words the child/ vulnerableadult used – do not ‘translate’ intoproper names, etc. As far as possibleuse the exact words used in thedisclosure.

If someone else is making an allegationor raising a concern you will need toinclude their contact details.

The original document should be keptsafely and a copy forwarded to theDiocesan Safeguarding Adviser. If youtype up the notes keep a copy of thehand written notes.

What to record: (6WH)

Who was involved – names of key people;

what happened – facts not opinions;

where it happened;

when it happened – date and time;

why it happened;

whom it was referred to;

how it happened.



You are not expected to be an expert inthese areas so refer on.

All Allegations and Disclosures mustbe referred to theSafeguarding Advisor.

If you believe the person is at immediaterisk of harm when they leave you, makea referral directly to the appropriateagency – Police or Social Services.

All disclosures, allegations, concernsshould be referred initially to theDiocesan SafeguardingAdviser, who willinform the bishops, archdeacons, deans,clergy, etc. as appropriate.

No concern is too small – all disclosures,issues or concerns seen or that you aremade aware of must be acted on assoon as possible.

Do not investigate yourself and nevermake assumptions.

Your Parish Safeguarding Rep is:Jane Barnicoat-Chongwe



Diocesan Safeguarding Manager

01962 737317 or 07921 865374

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Evening and weekends safeguarding

advice available from Hampshire

County Council (covers the whole of the

Winchester Diocese) 0300 555 1373

In an emergency use the 999

emergency number. If you do you should

contact the Safeguarding Manager as

soon as possible.

List of National Help Lines

Stop It Now Helpline:0808 1000 900

Childline: 0800 11 11 (free from mostphones and won’t show on phone bill)

Action On Elder Abuse Helpline:080 8808 8141

National Domestic Violence Helpline0800 2000 247

Mens Advice Line 0808 801 0327

The Crossings; a United Church initiative

The Crossings Drop –in ….. an update

The Waterside Churches Together has now established the Drop-In.
It is open on two half days a week (Wednesday and Saturday mornings) and is based in the Jordan Room in St John’s Church, Hythe.
It is hoped that those who are homeless, lonely, or otherwise marginalised, in the Waterside and nearby areas; can find a warm safe place to come; to talk and be listened to, to receive help applying for benefits, to have access to free wi-fi, to warm food and drink.
The Drop-in is staffed by a full time organiser, Sarah and by other volunteers.
Sarah would love to meet you and explain what the Crossings does in more detail.

How can you help ?
We do need volunteers to help staff the Drop-In.  A commitment of just two hours a month would be most welcome…. Especially men !
We would also welcome donations to the charity ( will explain how this can be done.
And of course we need your prayers as we seek to bring something of God's love into the margins and shadows of our busy world.

John Hughes

14th February 2019





More Volunteers to help in the Abbey Church, please!!!

We are going to need volunteers to assist in a number of jobs in the Abbey Church from April this year.  One such task involves operating the Sound Desk, and the following copy will appear in the Weekly Newsletter this week.  Please do contact Tony Norris, if you feel that you could help.

Many thanks;  Peter

Operating the Sound Desk
For each service where sound amplification is used (which is almost every service in the Abbey Church), we need some one to be responsible for setting up, operating and tidying up the equipment. This is not an onerous job, but it is important. Could I please ask for volunteers for this task? Tony Norris will provide training. which we hope to arrange in early March. As well as training, we will ask that each 'trainee' sits alongside an experienced operator (either Tony or Sally) for at least one service. Ideally, we are asking for at least six people willing to share this task. Please contact Tony as soon as practicable to indicate your interest. Many thanks.
Peter Melhuish Church Warden.